{"id":280,"date":"2019-09-14T11:58:53","date_gmt":"2019-09-14T18:58:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mrmd.com\/blog\/?p=280"},"modified":"2019-09-14T11:58:55","modified_gmt":"2019-09-14T18:58:55","slug":"feels-like-yesterday","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mrmd.com\/blog\/2019\/09\/14\/feels-like-yesterday\/","title":{"rendered":"Feels like yesterday \u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The years do go by pretty quickly \u2026 I’ve got these yearly calendar reminders to commemorate when I first met certain people, or did so-and-so with someone, etc\u2014and it’s always the same pattern: at about 4-5 years it’s sorta cool, that we’ve gotten to that mark. Then the years start adding on without that <\/em>much happening, till the 10-year commemorative. “Wow, 10 years!” <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, after that, it’s a slow trudge till the next 5-year or even next 10-year mark \u2026 because, again, not a whole lot happens in terms of the friendship or whatever, even if lots of things are happening in the individual lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Twenty years \u2026 thirty years \u2026 at some point it start being pointless to even keep track. And I start ignoring most of the yearly reminder notifications, unless it’s a major one (Multiples of 5 are probably worth mentioning! probably \u2026)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think it’s mostly because we pretty much all stay the same people inside \u2026 friends I met when we were teenagers, well, we really haven’t changed THAT much\u2014I mean there’s age and the vissicitudes of living but the person is the same for the most part. We all become a little wiser\u2014whatever that means to us\u2014and more “mature” in our views and choices \u2026 but the connection<\/em> is the same, so it doesn’t really feel like as much time has gone by as the numbers of years would suggest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That’s probably also partly a function of selection bias (or some term like that)\u2014in that the only people that I’d set up that sort of yearly reminder for would be people with whom I do retain that connection \u2026 and they are the very same people for whom the years would seem compressed in such a way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In contrast, when considering someone with whom I might have once been close in some way, but who went on to live a life divergent from mine\u2014there, 5 years might as well be 50, as whatever connection I had with that person has long dissolved, and, to me, their “essence” exists only in what feels like a distant past.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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